Let me ask you this: How many times have you told yourself that all the good men or women were taken already? How many times have you told yourself that you could never change or that you're too technology or numbers challenged to start a business? What we tell ourselves may very well be limiting beliefs holding us back from achieving our goals, dreams and aspirations.
Limiting beliefs are beliefs that hold us back in some way. Because we believe them, we don't do or take action on certain things or areas of our lives. For example, if we believe that all the good men or women are taken already, or that all men or women are narcissists like the ex we left behind, we may refrain from dating. We may even close ourselves off from the very idea of dating. To protect ourselves from being hurt, we may avoid even the possibility of encountering potential dates by becoming workaholics and then spending any free time we have in hibernation. We might not bother to wear attractive clothing or attend social functions and we may fight or thwart every effort by friends and colleagues to introduce us to potential dates.
The truth is that it takes all kinds of people to make the world go round and one out of every two marriages end up in divorce. Given these facts, it stands to reason that not all people are narcissists like your ex and not all the good ones are taken. These are limiting beliefs holding you back from living the life you may really want to live. If, in your heart of hearts, you really want to have a healthy relationship, get married and maybe have children someday, then, taken to the extreme, these beliefs could cause you to never reach this goal. In other words, they may cause you to live the rest of your life in loneliness. They will certainly cause you to do things to sabotage your goal and/or refrain from doing things that would help you reach your goal of finding your mate. The worst part is, without becoming self-aware, you may not even realize you have these beliefs or know that they're holding you back from attaining your goals.
Limiting beliefs don't only crop up in the context of dating. Limiting beliefs can be present in and affect all aspects of our lives including career, business, education, family relations and friendship. If you believe, for example, that you're a slow learner, or that only certain types of people ever get certain jobs, or that you'll never find someone better than your abusive or narcissistic spouse, then these limiting beliefs may keep you from seeking a job promotion or a raise or keep you in an unhealthy or even dangerous relationship.
Identifying limiting beliefs is the first step to overcoming them. If you're already aware that you hold some limiting beliefs and you want to dispel them, then download my Overcoming Limiting Beliefs Checklist. It's a step-by-step action checklist for dispelling limiting beliefs.
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